Really "whom" is generally used only in a very formal style.
Formal is relative to the company you keep. I'm british too. People who use "whom" usually went to grammar school and red brick universities and often studied something related to languages/literature/classics etc, but there's definitely a large subsection of the population who happily use "whom" in informal speech, and among university educated people you will almost never be chastised for using the correct form.
Please think about what "correct" means to someone learning English. Common usage is what is "correct", not the rules from a 19th centuary prescriptive grammar. Your idea that "whom" is "correct" as the object pronoun is funamentally flawed, because it's simply not modern English usage in anything less then a very formal style. In fact "who" was used as an object pronoun by Shakespeare, so it's not so modern either.
My use of "one" was intended to be humorous, alas it failed to hit the mark.
If you insist that "whom" is "correct", which is very formal, then you should also to be consistent and capitalise "British". Hobgolins notwithstanding. ;)
What you call "basic correct grammar" simply isn't. Please check any grammar book you possess. I recommend Fowler for a native speaker or Swann for advanced learners of English.
You seem to have misinterpreted my post. I did not defend the company I kept. I pointed out that the section of society to which you referred do not speak as you claim.
I confess to reading books. They do not encumber me. You should try them. The optical resolution and battery life of a physical book has yet to be surpassed by a computer. Please read a modern grammar in whatever format pleases you.
It may not be relevant but, yes, I did wear a gown to dinner. ;)
Your apparent assumption that I'm not familiar with how educated people speak is quite unfounded.
You may be "british [sic]", but are you a native speaker?
The "large subsection of the population who happily use 'whom' in informal speech" successfully avoided me for three years at Cambridge University.
One could well be a source of amusement for speaking in a pompous style.
Use of "who/whom" is well documented in modern English grammars. I have one open in front of me.
Are you genuinely implying I must be a foreign national because.. I have friends who don't mind correct grammar, lol? Yes, I am a native Englishman. I'm amazed at how defensive you just got in the space of one post — you were just dying to call out a grammatical error in my post to the point where you call a [sic] on an intentional non-capitalisation on an internet forum, loooooooooooool.
Yep, you are being a source of amusement right now. You came here to complain that the actual correct form "whom" should be displaced in favour of the informally widespread "who", when you just chose to start a sentence using "one" as a pronoun instead of rephrasing that to any number of unpretentious alternatives which are equally grammatically valid.
I can't speak for the company you keep, but the idea that you can throw around "one" around polite company but they'd suddenly give you funny looks over "whom" is pretty funny. You felt the need to jump to the defense of the company you keep and establish that they're alumni of an elite university, yet they revolt against basic correct grammar. Apparently that's the tipping point for people who wear gowns to dinner.
I hope that's a pdf and you don't sit around encumbered by a lexicon at your computer table.
I had open the following: Practical English Usage, 3rd Edition, Michael Swan.
The following all agree on the use of "whom" and "who"
You say "correct", but all these dictionaries say otherwise.
I noticed this pattern on the iOS platform, where it seems a little harder to give feedback about problematic questions/answers. I'm relatively certain that "Whom are you with" would be the correct English grammar. My sense as a native (American) English speaker, is that informally in common speech, the with who/with whom and for who/for whom etc distinction in English is often ignored...
While "whom" is correct. It's very formal. Certainly in British English using "whom" in anything but a set phrase in conversation would appear quite strange.
Only if you went to a state school or a comprehensive. It's completely normal to say "whom" in the correct usage around people who know the difference, even informally.
If there was a verb it would be more blurry, people tend to almost always say e.g. "Who are you going with" rather than "with whom do you go", but "who are you with" vs "whom are you with" is really a case of whether you were properly educated on grammar and whether your associates were too.
"Whom" is unusual in informal modern English. We use it in a very formal style.
'When', 'who', 'woman', 'are', 'with', 'you', 'still' — these are the words I was given to work with. The ONLY grammatically correct and semi-reasonable-sounding sentence I can formulate with these words having the same meaning as 'с кем ты?' is "who are with you?"
Does it sound wrong? Yes. Nobody would ever say this, but it IS grammatically correct. It is in fact possible for the relative pronouns which, who, and that to be either singular or plural. They take their number from their antecedent—the words to which they refer. That is, if the antecedent is plural, the pronoun is plural and therefore takes a plural verb. If the antecedent is singular, the pronoun is also singular and thus takes a singular verb.
Does "who are with you?" still sound wrong? Consider it a shortening of a sentence such as "who among your friends are currently riding with you?"
It still sounds awkward, for site, but then again, it, and its even more awkward-sounding (and possibly incorrect) variants "with you are who?", "with you who are?", and "who with you are?" are the only sentences I can form with the four words 'who', 'with', 'are', and 'you'.
"With who" and "who are you with?" are NOT correct, because the instrumental case of the word 'who' is 'whom'; the instrumental case of the word 'you' is still just 'you'.
This may help. Skip to the "usage" section.
Yes. I provided the link because it addresses the core of the issue.
1000 percent incorrect. "Who is with you?" would be "Кто с тобой?"
"Who/whom are you with" renders you the subject of the sentence and the unknown person the one in prepositional/ablative case.
"Who is with you?" renders the unknown person the subject of the sentence. It's not a correct solution.
If I ask a crowd, "WHO'S WITH ME?!" that's contextually different to "Who am I with?", in the former I am a leader, in the latter a follower. You might argue that in an example where you're just hanging out with friends on an equally equitable level there's not any real distinction, but that's on a case by case basis, grammatically they are not equivalent.