"The mom or the dad?"
Translation:האמא או האבא?
For pronounciation check this: https://www.duolingo.com/skill/he/Letters-1/tips-and-notes
The word האם is used at the beginning of a question or an interrogative phrase when other question words are absent, signifying "Is it (true) that...".
Note that האם is usually omitted in colloquial Hebrew, and is currently used in formal speech and text only.
So, don't use it because it's asking between alternatives rather than the truth of what would otherwise be a statement.