"Why do you not want to hold me?"
Translation:Waarom wil je me niet vasthouden?
I still dont understand the grammar, no matter how much i read it.
Why want you me not hold?
That definitely is a useful resource, but very extensive. To get a general grasp on Dutch word order, it's probably better to start with a more brief explanation, before digging into the detail that's mentioned on dutchgrammar.com
See for instance this explanation by the Duolingo Dutch team: https://www.duolingo.com/comment/3733010
It's part of this overview of Dutch grammar: https://www.duolingo.com/comment/3732817