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Needed advice: How do I convince my parents to let me have a pen pal?

Hello~! Thank you so much for taking your time for this. I have a dreamed goal becoming a polygot, or becoming fluent in 4 - 5 languages before a certain time. I have learned a lot, but I still need to practice with a native speaker. With my parents in mind, I know I will no be able to physically or electronically speak with a native speaker. However, I would like to get advice, and learn more about the culture of other countries through natives. Specifically through writing. In about a year, I will have the opportunity to visit Japan with my parents. I know a lot already, but I do not believe I will know enough to comfortably speak with the people around when I get there.

Any advice on how to convince my parents to let me have a pen pal? They are strict, unfortunately. Thank you so much. I hope you have a wonderful day! :D

March 6, 2019

16 Comments


https://www.duolingo.com/AndresGarner

You should obey your parents, there are reasons they will not let you do that, just trust them. They are a lot wiser and have more life experience, try asking around at your school to the teachers and see if they know any kids that speak Japanese in the school

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/Next_Pg

That is very true, I should just talk to them and if I can't then I should accept it for the better. Thank you :)

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/GhappynowappT

Great suggestion, Andres.

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/salivanto

I was clicking on this to say the exact same thing. The parents may even be wrong, but it's important to nurture relationships with people around you (including your parents).

March 7, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/GhappynowappT

I got a pen pal through language classes at school, so you might ask a teacher if your school teaches Japanese. If not, is there another organization in your area that teaches that language? You could ask through there, or if your parents are that strict, ask them to vet that organization before having a pen pal connect with you.

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/Next_Pg

Thank you! That is a good idea :)

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/mydogisapug

have you tried asking them? i dont see why you wouldnt be allowed to

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/Next_Pg

Thank you for commenting! :) No, I have not asked them. However, anytime I ask them for anything they need to have solid reasons or evidence. Basically, I need to have all the information or arguments before I address them. So, I'm just looking for advice on persuasive reasons.

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/N.u.N

my parents do this thing where I ask them, for instance: "hey mom, can i go outside?"
"ask your dad."

later

"hey dad, can i go outside?" "go ask your mom." XD

March 7, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/Next_Pg

Hahaha! I can relate, ahh parents...

March 7, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/salivanto

That's when you say "I did - she had no objection - do you?" :-)

I'd be perfectly fine if my kids did that.

March 8, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/mydogisapug

you want to become a polyglot, and to become good at speaking languages a pen pal is useful. that's a solid argument since you can make money with that skill in the future and you're probably mature enough to not give them your credit card number.

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/Next_Pg

Thank you, I actually never thought that it was already a good argument. Thanks again :)

March 6, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/N.u.N

my parents are strict too! ( I can't download the UE4 engine because they don't trust the site!) but they know best, so......eh.

March 7, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/Next_Pg

Aww.... I know how you feel.. Times will get better :)

March 7, 2019

https://www.duolingo.com/N.u.N

hopefully!

March 8, 2019
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