Taking my leave. Thank you all.
Thank you Duolingo and everyone who has volunteered time to put all of these courses together for the world. Due to a recent development in my life, I will no longer be needing to learn another language. Good luck to everyone still continuing their studies. Always appreciate what you have and never take anything for granted. Life is already short and there is always a possibility that it can be even shorter. Remember that the next time you let something insignificant bother you. Ultimately it doesn't matter in your life. Treat others the way you would want to be treated and try to always be understanding. You never know what someone is going through. Appreciate each day and make sure your loved ones know that you care about them.
Take care everyone.
UPDATE: January 7th. 3:45am
I am overwhelmed from all of the love and support from everyone. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Time is precious right now, so please forgive me for not responding to everyone individually. I have read every response several times and you have all deeply touched my heart.
I don’t want to reveal too much detailed information. But I do feel the need to clear up one thing. I am in no way suicidal and I would never leave my family willingly. I’m sorry if I came across that way. It’s hard to try and say something without actually saying it if that makes sense. My wife is a lot better at this stuff than I am.
Thank you all for helping me through my sleepless night and for lending so much support and understanding. I needed it more than I was willing to admit to myself. It means more to me than you will ever know. You are all amazing and I will never forget this. Much love to all of you and your families.
“Life is a lot more fragile than we think. So you should treat others in a way that leaves no regrets. Fairly, and if possible, sincerely." – Haruki Murakami
Thank you. I'm hoping my wife will still continue on. I came here to learn more about the site and learn Spanish along with my family. So I do hope that my wife will join and learn alongside our kids, whether it be here or another source. I always wanted to learn another language and I wish I had started when I was little. So I definitely have wanted my kids to start learning, and have fun while doing it so they don't think it's work. I can say that the forum has been very...interesting. ;-) I've enjoyed learning here though and I'd recommend it to anyone. :-)
Edit: Hasta - I think you have touched everyone here. I feel that you are totally overwhelmed with responsibility and a host of other emotions.
I misinterpreted your initial post, as being purely about learning Spanish - I am so sorry!
❀ After reading your subsequent comments I now know you are grieving - for your loss - and for theirs.
Of course you feel numb. Nothing ever prepares us for this. Take heart dear friend. No-one can decide how you should be feeling or reacting. As for being in denial - someone in denial could not have written this post or follow-up comments!
Don't be afraid - Someone Greater than all of us is watching over you and holds you in the palm of His hand.
Much love - Wilderbeest. ♡
I don't think you are in denial.
Sending you and your family much love in this difficult time.
Here are some words of wisdom from the Bhagavad Gita, a scripture revered by Hindus and many others.
Thou grievest where no grief should be! thou speak’st Words lacking wisdom! for the wise in heart Mourn not for those that live, nor those that die. Nor I, nor thou, nor any one of these, Ever was not, nor ever will not be, For ever and for ever afterwards. All, that doth live, lives always! To man’s frame As there come infancy and youth and age, So come there raisings-up and layings-down Of other and of other life-abodes, Which the wise know, and fear not. This that irks— Thy sense-life, thrilling to the elements— Bringing thee heat and cold, sorrows and joys, ‘Tis brief and mutable! Bear with it, Prince! As the wise bear. The soul which is not moved, The soul that with a strong and constant calm Takes sorrow and takes joy indifferently, Lives in the life undying! That which is Can never cease to be; that which is not Will not exist. To see this truth of both Is theirs who part essence from accident, Substance from shadow. Indestructible, Learn thou! the Life is, spreading life through all; It cannot anywhere, by any means, Be anywise diminished, stayed, or changed. But for these fleeting frames which it informs With spirit deathless, endless, infinite, They perish. Let them perish, Prince! and fight! He who shall say, “Lo! I have slain a man!” He who shall think, “Lo! I am slain!” those both Know naught! Life cannot slay. Life is not slain! Never the spirit was born; the spirit shall cease to be never; Never was time it was not; End and Beginning are dreams! Birthless and deathless and changeless remaineth the spirit for ever; Death hath not touched it at all, dead though the house of it seems! Who knoweth it exhaustless, self-sustained, Immortal, indestructible,--shall such Say, “I have killed a man, or caused to kill?” Nay, but as when one layeth His worn-out robes away, And taking new ones, sayeth, “These will I wear to-day!” So putteth by the spirit Lightly its garb of flesh, And passeth to inherit A residence afresh. I say to thee weapons reach not the Life; Flame burns it not, waters cannot o’erwhelm, Nor dry winds wither it. Impenetrable, Unentered, unassailed, unharmed, untouched, Immortal, all-arriving, stable, sure, Invisible, ineffable, by word And thought uncompassed, ever all itself, Thus is the Soul declared! How wilt thou, then, Knowing it so,--grieve when thou shouldst not grieve? How, if thou hearest that the man new-dead Is, like the man new-born, still living man— One same, existent Spirit—wilt thou weep? The end of birth is death; the end of death Is birth: this is ordained! and mournest thou, Chief of the stalwart arm! for what befalls Which could not otherwise befall? The birth Of living things comes unperceived; the death Comes unperceived; between them, beings perceive: What is there sorrowful herein, dear Prince? Wonderful, wistful, to contemplate! Difficult, doubtful, to speak upon! Strange and great for tongue to relate, Mystical hearing for every one! Nor wotteth man this, what a marvel it is, When seeing, and saying, and hearing are done! This Life within all living things, my Prince! Hides beyond harm; scorn thou to suffer, then, For that which cannot suffer.
EDIT: I tried hard to format this post but failed, I'm really sorry, but I hope you find the poem comforting in a way.
Thank you Jan, I appreciate that very much. I have noticed in the last week that it is hard for us to see anyone complain about things that don't matter, or just seem unappreciative of what they have. I suppose sometimes it takes something drastic for us to open our eyes a little bit more. I find myself appreciating even the tiniest little things now and I have so much to be thankful for. We all do. :-)
"Ride out the storm when clouds hide the face of the sun in your life, remembering that even if you lose sight of the sun for a moment, the sun is still there." Blessing of the Apaches.
Best of luck and best of wishes to you and yours. :)
Volgav vitsenanieff nivya kevach varatsach.
I thought having to deal with people making fun of some of the "rare" languages I'm learning was quite hard to take at times, however, I'm constantly made aware of those we can touch in our everyday lives. I absolutely love coming to the forums and uplifting, inspiring and motivating others in whatever they wish to pursue! :) My dear friend, I hope that whatever you are facing that it will turn around and joy will flood your heart and spirit! All of us here support you and want nothing but the BEST for you! :) You're right life is short. You have touched so many of us with your post and I pray God be with you in whatever is happening in your life! :) We're always here for you and we are GRATEFUL to have you as a member of our community! :) Peace go with you my friend! :)
Wishing you, and for your family and friends, that the water of life replenishes and refreshes your souls, especially at this time.
People of Orphalese, the wind bids me leave you. Less hasty am I than the wind, yet I must go. We wanderers, ever seeking the lonelier way, begin no day where we have ended another day; and no sunrise finds us where sunset left us. Even while the earth sleeps we travel. We are the seeds of the tenacious plant, and it is in our ripeness and our fullness of heart that we are given to the wind and are scattered.
You have been and are welcome among us. And my thoughts and best wishes also go to you on this your journey. My thanks also go to you, for the generous gifts of learning and support you share with us.
Also, just to put it out there, I have also found at times that Duolingo is very useful to use as a distraction tool from other things that continuously go down and I find challenging in my life.
I am just putting this out there, and that if this is something you find for you, then that is ok also. Though, of course, please do, each and everyone of us, I hope we do choose to be wise and focus and complete the things we really need to do in life.
Also, I am so touched by so many of the supportive and inspiring comments people are making here. They are showing such deep skills of compassion and listening. Such key elements also in communication. Which after all, is one of the key reasons why Duolingo is important to me.
Thank you community for also teaching me.
Hasta.Luego, Have you been diagnosed with a terminal illness? I read through this thread but didn't see exactly what is going on.
Indeed life is short and unfortunately we never know when we will lose those we love. I feel for you and the sense you have for your family.
Someone quoted from Ode on intimations of immortality and it is one that brought me strength when I lost one.
What can be said but that you are not alone, never alone and when your body fails your spirit will live on in those you loved and those who love you
That’s...terrible. While I don’t know what is going on in your life, or what will come of it, I wish you to have a healthy time, maybe everything will get better. Hope you will be able to enjoy life, enjoy the little things. Happy moments spent with family, the nature outside, take a deep breath.
I don't know what is happening with you, but if you are experiencing suicidal depression, please, please, please get professional help. Things are not as you feel when you are depressed. You have a wife and kids, and you are very much loved and needed. Obviously people here are affected by you and sending you love, too.
If this is an illness or a loss you are experiencing, I wish you strength, peace, healing, and love. And you have my deepest condolences!
Thank you SlyeFi, and same to you. I truly mean every word I said. :-)
Thank you very much for sharing this. Learning languages goes way further than just learning to speak a language. It is about culture, it is about journeys, it is about motivation. Language is part of everything we do.
Your message made me remember the good things I have. It made me remember that if I want to achieve something I have to do it while I can.
Heartwarming messages like these have the power to plant a seed in someone. I'm sure you've achieved that with me. Such a simple message changes the world for the better. I have to thank you for that.
I wish you, your wife, your kids, and everyone dear to you the best of everything. Stay strong :)
When all seems hopeless, and you're lost in the storm, keep looking onward, and believe me when I say we will arrive on better shores.
That spur of the moment poetry is my way of saying I hope the best for you, whatever you are going through. Sending love and hope to you. Trust that God is watching over you, day and night.
As a native speaker I cannot quite understand what you're trying to say. I think you wanted to say: "veel geluk. Ik vond het leuk om je te leren kennen".
This would be an odd thing to say in a place like this, but I have to appreciate what you're trying to say :) Instead of "veel geluk" it would be better to say "sterkte" or "ik wens je veel sterkte".
(Yes, I know this is a bit off topic. But we're on a language learning forum. If I can help someone out then I feel a strong urge to do so..)
Sincerely wishing that you have all the support, strength and love that you need right now. Whatever your situation is, nothing I can write will ease it, I really do wish you the best and hope that everything goes as well as it possibly can, please don't waste time replying to this, just spend time with those you love and who love you. God bless.
I put my hand in yours, and together we can do what we could never do alone. No longer is there a sense of hopelessness, no longer must we each depend upon our own unsteady willpower. We are all together now, reaching out our hands for power and strength greater than ours, and as we join hands, we find love and understanding beyond our wildest dreams! Blessed Be
"Yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. Instead you ought to say, 'If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.' "
You're right-- life is so short. I live for my beloved Lord Jesus, who saved me from death so that when this body does perish, I will be forever in bliss with my best friend and Saviour. Death holds no victory or fear for me. If you aren't a believer, I beg you to consider these words. Please. I'm praying for you.
"When I am afraid, I will trust in Him-- what can mortal man do to me?"
As a heads up, a sub discussion here has been removed, as it has been ruled as off topic to the Original Post.
Thank you everyone for your expressions of support and display of kindness to this Original Poster.
Wishing all of us, all the best with our language learning.
Yes,it was probably best that the sub discussion we were having was deleted.To those of you that were in the discussion(and anyone else who saw it,and the mods,and to Ben,if I had any part in the bullying),I would like to apoligize for if I said anything inappropriate or said anything that caused offense or hard feelings.I think I may have become too involved in the discussion,and again,I'm sorry.I do realize that in the end,(hope this is okay to say this,mods)it is up to every individual what they believe.Once again,sorry for anything I said that I should have kept to myself. It WAS off the topic,mods.I'm not saying I disagree with what I said earlier,but it may have been a bit harsh and out of place on this site.
Oh all of you,
Each one of you is precious to me.
And, for some posts, it is ever ever sooo fine to go off topic.
Though it is preferred it is usually kept in line with language learning and Duolingo issues.
Also, it is the nature of this post, and nature of the other discussions, that was causing ... well, touching too many gray areas, and especially when taking it back to the purpose of the OP.
Please keep being amazing, each and every one of you.
Though of course, it is also appreciated when we stay within the spirit of the guidelines. That this is a welcoming and supportive environment for each and every one of us to learn a language.
While it is a fully open environment, it is also a focused one, here for a purpose. So there are some topics that are better discussed in more appropriate forums outside of Duolingo.
Thank each and everyone of you for being Spectacular !
Thank you for showing kindness and inclusion, and making this a safe place for all of us to be able to focus on language learning, in a supportive community.
Thank you for your candor, for inspiring these beautiful words from all corners of the world and spiritualities, and for reminding us to have a sense of humor about the small stuff. We are all connected as human beings, and the study of languages helps remind me of that. Namaste.
When my father got cancer and died 2 years later, I used a different approach to deal with it, than most people. I think, it is the best way go through it. The trick is simple. Focus on other things and don't think about it. I caught myself feeling happy about something else even few days after his death. I managed to totally forget he was dead most of the days.
Time heals the pain, so over time the pain gets less intense.
It is now around 4 years since his passing and the pain has been very minimum. I strongly advice everybody to use this mind hack.
What we focus on gets more intense. Why go through intense suffering, when it is not needed.