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I feel like I should give up on dutch

I don't like leaving things that I don't finish but I really feel like me and dutch are not gonna be friends. When it went into beta I was really happy and had to try it but now I am realising that it doesn't really satisfy me (not that it was a bad language). I sort of can't dovelop any relationship to it (even thoughmy friend is half dutch but she doesn't speak it very well), it probably wouldn't be even too hard for me - I speak english and in school I have been studying german for 6 years. So do you think that I should keep trying hoping that I will begin to like it? I feel quite bad for wanting to drop it off when I have already started.

July 28, 2014



I don't think you should beat yourself up about it. Your motivation for learning a language is important. I have a similar issue, I guess. Since English is spoken in so many places in the world, and I'm a native English speaker, I probably don't have to learn any language to function in most places I would ever want to visit or live. However, I love learning languages and studying about other cultures. So I know I would like to learn at least a couple of other languages, but there isn't much motivation for me to learn a particular one. I live in Texas, and despite what some people think, you don't need to know Spanish to communicate here. Now, all that being said - if there isn't one primary reason driving you to learn a language, then learn what makes you happy and what interests you!


You don't have to delete your tree. You can just not practice, and if you ever feel like picking up Dutch again, you don't have to start over.

And don't feel bad about wanting to drop Dutch. In Economics, there is something called an opportunity cost, which is basically what you have to give up in order to do something else. So, if you don't like doing Dutch, just do something else that you prefer. That way, you're doing something that makes you happy, and you're not wasting your time with something that you don't like.

Hope this helps.


Spitfire is right. If you have motivation, if you like learning, if you like like exploring culture linked to Dutch, it's nice to learn. But if you don't, why waste your time on it? Better quit now than investing more time, not learning a lot (because you are less motivated/less positive) and quit later. If you keep on aanmodderen (struggling) you'll only end up feeling worse: ik heb geen zin.


Dutch has a word for 'muddling along'... Brilliant :)

I really personally like the idea of learning Dutch. It seems to me like what German would be without the confusing bits. I suppose a lot of people weigh it up and think 'it's a language from a small country', but really every Dutch person I have met seems to be able to jump easily from English to German in way that the average English speaker or German speaker would envy. The language is said to be halfway between the two and it seems to be reflected in the amazing linguistic flexiblity of the Dutch people. There must be some future in that.

Unfortunately, when I get around to studying it, I just may have to invent my own way of pronouncing Dutch... I am not sure I have the voice box to handle it :)


I agree aanmodderen is a brilliant word (that's why I just had to use it in my post). :)

Regarding the pronunciation, the good thing is that you don't have to worry too much about the g (the throat sound we have in common with Arabic), since a significant part of the Dutch (and all Belgians) use a softer version, depending on the region, in some regions this is going so far, the g literally turns into an h. For anglophones speaking Dutch usually the English r is an easier giveaway one is not a native speaker than the g. :) But on the other hand there are quite a few vowels to be mastered: eu ui, ij/ei to name a few.

And regarding the linguistic flexibility, what helps is that we're bombarded by English in all media and during summer we're flooded by Germans enjoying the Dutch coast during their holiday. Practice helps a lot! If non-Dutch would hear Dutch as often as the Dutch hear English, their Dutch would no doubt match the English skills of the Dutch. :)


Can I ask why you started it in the first place? Going back to that might give you some insight on why you want to quit and help you make up your mind...


I think that you should do one language at a time but not give up on it forever.


That might be the thing that works best for some people, but not for others. It all depends on what you want, e.g.: if you have limited time then it's probably more effective to focus on one language, but if you like variety it could be the other way around.


I say try again with Dutch because you know English and have been learning German for 6 years, which are both West Germinac languages like Dutch.


I found this happening with Portuguese. I felt better after dropping it

I'm interested in your reason for feeling this way about Dutch. Would you mind expanding on what you haven't liked, please? I don't want to prod you into saying more than you feel comfortable saying, though!

Would you say that it's something about the course that falls flat, or the language? Is it not challenging enough, compared to French or German - too much like English? Did you feel yourself getting burned out with so much to work on?

I'm guessing, which probably doesn't help you - do you mind clarifying?


I wouldn't say that i don't like the language, I feel kind of neutral about it and that is the thing I guess. I didn't develop any liking toward the language. To me it souns like a little strange mix of english and german. At first I thought that that would be the reason to like it but it wasn't. But who knows? Maybe in the future I will start liking it.

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