"Con chi sei?"
Translation:Whom are you with?
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They might say "with whom are you?" though. But more likely they will say "who are you with?" which sounds less stuffy. I once read from a writer giving advice to would-be writers saying, "Don't make your characters use perfect grammar unless you want them to sound like a stuffed shirt."
Every English speaker should learn when to use formal, informal and idiomatic forms of the language. Your first example would be formal, but I would say "You are with whom?". The inflection would indicate the interrogative. The second example is ungrammatical but idiomatic. Dialogue in a novel would not have to adhere to all the grammar rules, obviously.
Good question! This discussion overlaps a lot of finicky and complicated issues, most of which I'm not super qualified to discuss, so here's a(n incomplete) explanation:
First: "Whom are you with" is not English I would ever teach to a learner. It's awkward and sounds wrong, as HaroldWonham pointed out (because it's not following the rules of any variety of modern vernacular english).
While me-of-today might not use the term "nazi" as casually as me-of-two-years-ago, (and my opinions of whether victorian-era usages still count as "correct" have changed too,) "grammar nazi" is and was a pretty casual term for people who a)constantly point out "incorrect" usage in situations where they were not asked to do so, or b) insist on following a set of grammar rules that don't actually match modern english usage (e.g. telling people to never split infinitives). Basically, disregarding that language evolves and that grammar textbooks describe correct usage rather than dictate it.
Basically, it's people who use "grammar" to jump on other people's perceived mistakes to make themselves seem "better" somehow.
Now, there's a lot of politics surrounding what is and is not "correct" English, and people who get called GNs tend to enforce (somewhat outdated) rules of the most upper-class varieties of English on people who are using... less-privileged varieties. (It's largely a classism and racism thing, but I'm sure there are other -isms it could be used to enforce.)
Here's an example: Did you notice up there where I used singular "them" instead of "he/she"? "Them" is 100% used in conversation, but some English teachers might insist on "he/she" because that's what they were taught. Here's a gap between what sounds right and what the textbooks might say.
tl;dr correct modern usage and the textbooks occasionally disagree, and people who feel entitled to push the textbooks' rules on others are being jerks and pedants.
So, both of your replies just kind of condescendingly ignore the fact that you are super wrong. Like, did you click the link? It might not have been the nicest way to present information but that doesn't make the information incorrect.
The rules you keep citing are not correct for current English.
1) "Whom" is no longer in everyday use. "You stabbed WHO?" is just as valid a question as "You stabbed WHOM?".
2) Sentences can now be (and always have been) ended with prepositions.
That's actually a common misconception (unfortunately purported by many misguided English teachers), which simply isn't true. Not only is it not observed--it's not even a real rule. It (and the similar situation of starting a sentence with a coordinating conjunction) is actually a rule from Latin which died away in the language's transition to German.
In German, ending sentences with prepositions became the basis of an extremely important grammatical feature (verbs with separable prefixes, for all you German aficionados out there), and the rule faded.
English is not directly Latin but instead passed through being German first, and thus we inherit many properties from mama German. One of these is that, unlike Latin, a preposition is something a sentence can be ended with. ;)
The more you know!
Okay, so the general word order for questions like this in Italian is: Preposition, then question word (who, what, when...), then subject (can be omitted), then verb. Am I correct to assume this for all questions that involve a "question word"? (for lack of a better term)
"Whom are you with" is the grammatically correct English. "Who are you with" is actually grammatically incorrect slang. But most people aren't grammatically correct when they speak. That's true of native speakers of any language. Strictly correct grammar sounds stilted when you're speaking casually.
Well, whom are you with is grammatically correct. It sounds pretentious, but a lot of people would argue that it is "more correct" than who are you with. It's actually a relic of applying too much logic to what is "correct" and what is "incorrect" when speaking English.
Try thinking of who and whom as he and him. where "he" will fit, "who" will be correct. He is my friend. Who is my friend. Where "him' will sound right, "whom" will sound right. You're going with him? You're going with whom? I have found that the easiest way to keep it straight
I would like to know how to turn off the notes to me saying I am losing ground with other people etc., etc., I had some old pretentious schoolmarm type bawl me out by telling me not to ask questions that have already been asked. So now I do not post questions anymore. I am not in this for competition. I am just trying to acclimate myself to the language again. I do do it everyday but resent it when the system tells me I am falling behind, etc., etc...How do I turn those notices off?