I purchased one of the extra 30 lingot lessons and I dont have it anywhere I have refreshed it soo many times and I still dont have it=( Please help me thanks!!!=)
If you are talking of the Flirting bonus skill, it should be present in the top half of your tree, just below the Food, Animals and Plurals skills.
Edit: But, I do notice one funny thing. You seem to be still in Basics 2. The slots for bonus skills shouldn't have opened up till you complete Food, Animals and Plurals skills.